Notes on a self improvement project

A certain someone announced his engagement to his ex-wife today. Besides the obvious issue of THE EX-WIFE , here are some other issues about this announcement: 1. The announcement was on Facebook...  2. Without talking to his daughters first. 3. The relationship status was changed EIGHT days ago, but made public today (see #2, above, and #5, below). 4. His one remaining parent, who doesn't particularly care for the ex-wife, is currently fighting for her life after a major stroke. 5. This certain someone is well aware that his one remaining parent AND all of the family who is currently worried, upset, and sad about the parent's health, doesn't particularly like the ex-wife. 6. This certain someone is making the announcement about the engagement to Facebook, but has yet to say anything at all about his one remaining parent and her health situation. Awesome.  In the comment chain about the engagement, there is this comment from CS:  I do love her with all my heart...

After I posted my last blog story, I thought a lot about what a soulmate really is. The story of Joe and Marilyn's love story was what triggered this line of thought, but I don't see Joe and Marilyn as soulmates. Why not? The younger me would have seen something in the Joe and Marilyn story. They couldn't or wouldn't let each other go. Joe even thought about Marilyn as he was dying. His last wish was to see her. Isn't that what being soulmates is all about? No, younger me. It isn't. Philip Seymour Hoffman thought about heroin as he was dying. The last thing he did before he died was reunite with heroin. Does that make heroin his soulmate? Joe and Marilyn were not soulmates. At best, they were karma mates (Shepard, 2010) - they were two people with unfinished business who had an intense connection and fulfilled some need in their psyches - not souls - together. At worst, they were each other's heroin. To know what a soulmate is, you have to define wh...

A certain friend of mine posted this story recently: http://nypost.com/2014/06/08/inside-the-twisted-love-affair-of-joe-dimaggio-marilyn-monroe/ about Marilyn Monroe and Joe Dimaggio's "love" story. Though I haven't talked to my friend about this post, it seemed as though my friend was focusing on the "love" part rather than the "sick and twisted" part. Yeah. This is a great love story, all right. Two people who could never truly be happy together, two people who couldn't stop hurting each other, two people who brought out the worst in each other, two people who could never really let the other shine. They were really only good for each other when they fell so far that up was the only option. Sounds like real love to me. The thing is, a younger me might have seen the romance in this story. What is it about our culture and society that sees a relationship like this as something admirable or noble? For some reason, we romanticize unhealthy ...